Pays of Ploërmel: After the death of her baby, Mélinda testifies to break the taboo of perinatal mourning

« Nous étions prêts à vivre avec la maladie, pas à vivre sans elle.»» Mélinda Kranzlin s’apprêtait à donner la vie pour la seconde fois mais elle n’aura finalement jamais eu son bébé dans les bras.

At birth, Sylia did not cry out.At birth, Sylia did not move a cil.While the little girl has grown in her maternal belly for eight months, she is still on April 22, 2021.

Each year in the world, almost two million children lose their lives before arriving in the world.A traumatic event for families, still taboo in society."I imagined giving life ... It is death that has invited itself," sums up the one who has faced since, "the earthenware dog's gaze of others.»»

Emotional roller coaster

This pregnancy will not have looked like any other, and the joy of seeing her belly rounded up will have been short -lived. « Neuf mois de montagnes russes»», analyse celle qui est passée par toutes les émotions sans imaginer une fois cette issue.Fatal.

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Blood test will highlight a high risk.The amniocentesis is for them, the next step."Stress literally overwhelmed me.The days after examination seemed to me years but the first results showed that there were no markers of Down's syndrome.Innocently, I thought nothing could happen to us anymore.»»

The second ultrasound will finally demonstrate that she is a girl."I felt lucky, especially since in the eyes of the gynecologist, there was nothing abnormal.»» À ceci près que ce dernier n’a pas reçu les conclusions de l’amniocentèse pratiquée à Rennes.

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The ax will fall the next day."The tests have revealed a chromosomal anomaly.And without giving me more explanations, I was given an appointment with a geneticist ten days later.»» Une éternité pour celle qui a fouillé sur internet pour trouver des réponses à ses interrogations. « Très mauvaise idée»», avoue-t-elle sans détour.

Her baby reaches Turner's syndrome

After white nights and days to ruminate, she was able to put a name on the disease that struck her baby: Turner syndrome.

The third ultrasound makes the cardiologist say that Sylia will have to be operated on from birth, in Nantes or Paris, under penalty of risking aortic coarment.The couple still accuses the blow but remains united.More than ever.

As a precaution, the trigger for delivery is programmed.It was without counting on contractions to one month from the term that will come to thwart all the plans."I was anxious, yes, but above all happy with the idea of meeting our child.»»

Ausculted by a midwife who cannot find the baby's pulse, Melinda sees the world collapsing under his feet.A gynecologist who arrived in reinforcement will confirm that his heart has suddenly stopped."Our dream shattered in a fraction of a second.»»

Not the courage to see your face

The situation is "unreal.»» Leur tristesse indicible.And the following hours will be long and trying."I had no other options than to give birth naturally.At my request, the epidural was dosed so that I do not feel anything physically.»» À sa demande aussi, son ami restera de l’autre côté de la porte.

" I'm away.He tries not to lose foot, he has the heavy task of warning our loved ones.»» Mais le couple est rapidement dépassé par les décisions qui incombent au décès du nourrisson.And then arises, the question of meeting Sylia.

Le post-partum « avec les suites de couches»» laisse psychologiquement des traces."These are trauma that is difficult to accept without baby in our arms.»»

Back in the family cocoon less than 48 hours after the drama, they will choose to hide anything from their four years, Rafaël."It was our engine to move forward, one day after another, for four months.»»

Difficult recognition

The mother relates today the facts without detour but not without modesty.The storm of emotions, she has not escaped it, but if she puts words on her ills today, it is "for people to understand us and imagine what we have experienced.That they think about the importance of the words they pronounce in the face of us.»»

The misunderstanding of certain members around him resulted in clumsy sentences. « Tu n’as pas senti qu’il ne bougeait plus ?»» « Tu as fait quelque chose qu’il ne fallait pas ?»» « Tu aurais dû t’arrêter plus tôt.»» « Vous aurez un autre enfant en meilleure santé.»» L’autopsie laissera entendre que Sylia avait le cordon autour du cou.

The 30 -year -old is not the type to lower the guard.It's a fighter.A fighter.She accepts today that this sadly disappeared baby is part of their family history.And gets attached to this day when they have a new life to cherish.With this good star that will sparkle more than ever, above their heads.

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